A parent of a child who will only poop with a diaper on recently wrote me the following, “My daughter poops in her diaper in the bathroom while standing or lying flat on the floor. But, if I ask her to even just try sitting on the toilet with her diaper on, she refuses. I have offered her prizes and she still says, No way! Help!”
Parents of children who will only poop in a diaper or pull-up often find that it’s a lot easier to get their child to go into the bathroom to poop in their diaper or pull-up than it is to get them to take the next step which is to simply “practice” sitting on the toilet with their diaper on. The sequence of steps necessary to reduce the subconscious fear that is preventing these children from sitting on the toilet is detailed in Chapter 16 of my book, “The Ins and Outs of Poop”.
For many children, sitting on the toilet with their diaper on (or off) is the scariest and, therefore, the most difficult thing for them to do. That’s why children resist so strongly and are often slow to respond to incentives.
Don’t give up. Be patient. Do not rush your child to sit on the toilet.
It can sometimes take months for a child to relax enough even just to try sitting on the toilet with a diaper on. And it can take months for this same child to then relax enough to just try sitting on the toilet with no diaper. While that may seem like a long time, remember that time, patience and understanding are the keys to eliminating fears, in children and adults.